What’s Wrong is What’s Happened to You.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You have low self esteem
- You display needy, clingy or pseudo-independent behavior
- You don’t feel capable of dealing with stress and adversity
- You lack self-control
- You find it difficult to develop and maintain friendships
- You feel alienated from parents, caregivers, and other authority figures
- You display antisocial attitudes and behaviors
- You’re prone to aggression and violence
- You find it extremely difficult to develop genuine trust, intimacy, and affection
- You have a negative, hopeless or pessimistic view of self, family and society
- You display a lack of empathy, compassion and remorse
- You displayed behavioral and academic problems at school
- You have speech and language problems
- You chatter and ask questions incessantly
- You have difficulty learning
- You suffer from anxiety
- You suffer from depression
- You have a generalized sense of apathy and malaise
- You have a high susceptibility to chronic illness
- You have an obsession with hording, gorging, refusing or hiding food
These are all symptoms of developmental trauma.
Developmental Trauma is the result of abandonment, abuse, and/or neglect during the first three years of a child’s life.
(DT) disrupts cognitive, neurological and psychological development and attachment to adult caregivers. It’s inflicted on infants and children (most often without malicious intent) by adult caregivers who are unaware of a child’s social and emotional needs.
(DT) is caused by seemingly ordinary, normal or subtle daily events that involve relational and energetic disconnects between children their mothers that are either too long or too frequent.
If these disconnects happen too many times or for an extended period during the first year of life, children learn not to trust that adults will care for them.
This is the critical factor in disturbed attachment and can lead to attachment disorders and other relational disturbances in adulthood.
Unfortunately, most adults do not recognize or perceive these relational disconnects as traumatic, but see them as normal because they happen to everyone.
In other words, when someone close to you asks, “WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?”, what they should be asking is, “What’s happened to you?”
Drs. Barry and Janae Weinhold are authors, lifelong teachers, cosmologists, developmental psychologists and licensed mental health professionals. The Weinholds are also are devoted partners, parents of four children between them and grandparents of three.
Barry has authored or co-authored 54 textbooks and trade books in areas of psychology, including developmental trauma, addictions, conflict resolution, men’s issues and values and beliefs.
Janae has authored or coauthored 10 books in some of the same areas of psychology.
Barry and Janae have published about 50 articles for professional journals and have given over 100 presentations at local, state, national and international professional conferences.
Combined, they have been mental health counselors and teachers of mental health students for over 70 years.
As part of their quest for higher consciousness and their desire to understand evolution at all levels, the Weinholds have traveled extensively, lived abroad twice and studied a broad array of topics and subjects that helped them create their meta-theory Developmental Systems Theory, their clinical approach Developmental Process Work and the concept Developmental Trauma. These frameworks and concepts permeate their thinking, counseling & coaching and their writing.
In 1971, Barry founded the Counseling & Human Services Program in the School of Education at the University of Colorado-Colorado Springs. He served many of his 30 years at UCCS as department chair and helped implement a very successful counselor education curriculum for M.A. level students.
Janae completed her Ph.D. in Planetary Psychology from Union Institute in 1987. She taught part-time at CU as adjunct faculty and maintained a full-time psychotherapy practice, and Barry taught full-time at the University and maintained a part-time counseling practice as a licensed psychologist. They specialized in working with individuals couples and families, many times making house calls to work with families.
Their teaching, counseling and training provided a living laboratory for their research in developmental psychology, and led to their discovery of Developmental Trauma.
Eventually they were able to see developmental trauma’s impact on the evolution of individuals, couples, families, groups, cultures, nation-states and the whole human race.
This research provided them with a unique theoretical framework for understanding and modifying the relational templates that hold these interlocking systems together.
The process begins with uncovering the links between what happened to you in your childhood and any problems you might be having in your adult life, such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder or struggles to establish and maintain intimate relationships.
This second step is about finding social and emotional support. This can take several forms. Joining a support group, either live or online, getting therapy, talking with close friends or siblings about the traumatic things that happened to you. The goal of this step is to let go of family secrets and to share honestly and truthfully about the impact that your adverse childhood experiences have had on you–as a person, as a parent, as a partner, as a co-worker. Discovering that you’re not alone in your pain and suffering has a huge impact on clearing away the sense of isolation that accompanies developmental trauma.
Now is the time to do the inner work to rebuild your understanding of who you are as a person. This can involve journaling and reading other people’s stories about their traumatic childhoods and how they’ve overcome their trauma. The goal of this step is to learn the skill of self-reflection, to be able to witness or observe yourself–also known as mindfulness.
This skill allows you to identify points in your life where you have a choice: you can react or respond based on old behavior patterns, or you can make a different choice. Recognizing these “doorways” or “crossroads” moments in your life is freeing! Here you realize that YOU are in charge of your future, not the voices & behaviors from your past, from your childhood.
Freaked Out 101 is not about treating symptoms, it’s about healing trauma. If you’re tired of trying to mask symptoms with drugs, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, “coping” skills, etc, then FO101 is for you.
In Freaked Out 101, the focus is on the first step of healing developmental trauma, Connecting the Dots. This is where you come to terms with the habitual patterns that guide your life and your reactions.
Freaked OUT 202 and 303 are currently in development and you will be the first invited to participate when those are released.
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- Cheaper than Psychotherapy!
- Learn why You React
- Learn to Take Control
- Learn Self-Reflection
- Applicable to Your Life and Relationships
- Change Your Perception of Self and Others
- Change Your Patterns of Behavior
We’re so sure that Freak Out 101 will change the course of your life that we’re willing to stand behind it 100%.
If, for any reason, you don’t feel like you got the full value out of the program, just let us know within the first thirty days and we’ll happily refund your purchase.
We don’t like hassles and games, and we know you don’t either. So all you have to do is contact us and get your full refund, no questions asked.
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