Author Archive | Janae Weinhold

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Nothing Happened, So Why Am I Freaked Out?

The fact that “nothing happened” can cause a freak-out? Doesn’t make much sense does it? Something, some event, usually causes a freak-out, but not nothing. These “nothing happened” freak-outs are because “something should have happened and didn’t” . . . also known as neglect. Research shows that childhood neglect has a much bigger impact on us than the […]

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Stress: It’s All In Your Beliefs!

Experts such as Dan Siegel say stress is all in your beliefs! It’s your beliefs about stress–not the stress itself– that determines whether an experience has a positive or negative impact on you. Let’s face it: we live in a world where we can’t avoid stress. Periodic freak-outs are an    inevitable part of responding to life’s challenges. If we believe that […]

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Freaked-Out Stress and Adrenal Fatigue

Dr. James L. Wilson is an expert on adrenal fatigue, a topic of great importance to people who experience regular or chronic stress from being freaked out and emotionally overwhelmed. According to Dr. Wilson’s article about adrenal fatigue, “every time you experience any kind of stress, whether internal, like a sore throat, or external, like an angry teenager, […]

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Codependency, Fear & Anxiety

Codependency is a set of adult behaviors that are caused by developmental trauma during the first nine months of life and has a characteristic set of identifying behaviors: feelings of fear and anxiety about losing the connection to another person a compulsive over-focus on other people’s activities, problems and needs that looks like an  “addiction” feeling […]

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I’m F. I. N. E. . . . Freaked Out, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional?

“I’m fine, fine,” said Charlie Croker, a Cockney gangster in the British caper film Italian Job. To which Mr. Bridger the crime syndicate boss replied, “You know what ‘fine‘ stands for, don’t you? Freaked out, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional. I’m Fine. is also a famous Ross Geller line in a Friends’ episode. “I’m fine” is what we, like Ross, say when […]

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Why DO You Get Triggered?

Maybe you get triggered and freak out because you are more sensitive than other people. Perhaps you smell, hear, feel and taste things that other people don’t pick up because you have a more finely-tuned sensory filter. This sensitivity is sometimes known as “atypical sensory filtering.”  Sensory sensitivities can intensify as we grow older. And we may develop new sensitivities. […]

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Anxiety and Childhood Adversity

Research Findings on Anxiety and Childhood Adversity Researcher Samantha Pratt’s article, The Impact of Childhood Adversity on Later Anxiety (1) says there’s a high correlation between traumas associated with childhood adversity and the appearance of anxiety disorders later in life. The rise in the severity of adversity simultaneously increases the sensitivity to stress, and ultimately the likelihood of […]

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What Causes People to Freak Out?

Saying that someone freaked out is another way of saying they had an unexpected loss of composure or control of their emotions. Also known as “flipping our lid,” “blowing our mind” and”going bananas,” “freaked out” describes an overwhelmed nervous system that is unable to process an experience in a timely matter. A freak-out episode means losing our “normal” self and having a […]

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The Good News and the Bad News About Attachment

First the Bad News Dr. Mary Main and her associates at UC Berkeley have been conducting research since 1986 about how infants form their early attachments to their mothers during the first year of life. In her long-term follow-up studies with infants, she discovered that an infant’s attachment style at the age of 12 months predicts almost perfectly their attachment style for the […]

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